[Gutiffa]

Well, hi guys, its my first time talking about this, btw I am not really good for english but hope you understand.

Like the post says, my wife sent pics showing her breasts to a guy he meet in facebook and in underwear, thats what I saw, not sure what more she sent, I havent been the best husband, I know it but I am kind of frustrated, we had a very simple relation, I am very perverted, its obvius just looking where I am talking right now lol, and she is one of those woman that was supposed to be very shy, she never let me take sexual picks or videos of her alone or with me. but there she is sendind to another man, I cheated her too, I know it wasnt good but that doesnt give her the right to do what she did right? I am just frustrated because I just cant enjoy sex with her because she also doesnt, its like abusing of someone, and thats not nice, I feel like she do just because she feels like she has to, I feel bad for her, she had an horrible life and I am still with her becase want to try to make her happy but its really hard for me becase I am king of addict to sex, well there is a lot to say and I change of topic every moment, about her horrible life, her father killed her mother when he was drunk, it was an accident but still, its supossed that she only had one boyfriend before me and the guy was married, she didnt knew till she visited him by surprise and found there his wife, and there I am a shitty husbad, we got married because she got pregnant when I was 18, she was 21, she is older than me  . I wasnt ready for all that and did so many stupid things, now I made up my mind but there are a lot of broken things, and well, I am going to stop talking about this, already too much text and feel like I am writing for no one. Hope can read some advices, histories, or what to fking do with my life, feels like this isnt what life is supposed to be. Thanks for reading

[blarfengar]

Well man, that's only really a question you yourself can answer, and you yourself can judge whether or not this kind of a trust issue is something you can work past or that you can't ever trust her like you did again. Best of luck.

[olichan12]

Ok @Gutiffa, You're missing some very important points here because you don't understand what or why your wife has been doing. I'm going to tell you the truth right now: she lied to you about herself and her life, and has been doing so for quite a while. This will be hard, but the truth is hard.

In summary: Your wife is angry AT YOU (and the married guy she had as a boyfriend) for her dad killing her mother, even though she says it was an accident. Your wife is also using you to take care of her so that she can have sex with other men, while hating sex with you, and denying it to you. You cannot help her, and she does not want to be helped. It also means she doesn't love you. That's hard to hear, but it is the truth, because her actions prove that. I've quoted your statements about her below, and I've explained them, so this will make sense to you.

>my wife sent pics showing her breasts to a guy he meet in facebook and in underwear
This is her OPENLY being unfaithful to you. That means she has been unfaithful to you in secret, but she feels comfortable enough to do so openly now. It means she thinks she has full control of you, and can openly disrespect you.

> she is one of those woman that was supposed to be very shy
This is an act. She has been playing a character for you so you will fall in love with her and do whatever she wants.

>she never let me take sexual picks or videos of her alone or with me. but there she is sendind to another man
She thinks of you as her beta orbiter/provider, and wants as little sexuality with you as possible, so she can have as much sex as she can with other men. The pics are just a symptom of this problem.

> I just cant enjoy sex with her because she also doesnt
She does not enjoy sex because she does not want sex with YOU. She enjoys sex ONLY with other men. This is part of the punishment she gives you for her father killing her mother.

>want to try to make her happy but its really hard for me
She won't let you because she's taking her anger out on you. (I will explain in a moment.) Other men make her happy, not you.

> her horrible life
This is the bait she used to hook you. She wants you to feel bad for her, but she wants you to feel GUILTY. She wants you to feel as if her father killer her mother was somehow your fault.

>her father killed her mother when he was drunk
Everyone has bad things happen to them in life. She has to get over it, just like the rest of us. However, your wife REFUSES to get over it, because it allows her to attack you, and to cheat on you, and to disrespect you.

> it was an accident
I don't think she believes it was an accident because it seems to me that she is taking her anger out on you for her father.

>she only had one boyfriend before me
Even IF she only had one boyfriend before you, how many sexual partners has she had? She is trying to hide the fact that she has had sex with many men by saying she has had only one boyfriend.

>and the guy was married, she didnt knew
Your wife lied to you about that. She knew he was married, and she dated him because a female dating a married man is like having a father for a boyfriend. She purposely visited the guy to destroy his marriage, to punish him because her father killed her mother. It was a form of revenge.

>we got married because she got pregnant when I was 18, she was 21
She was looking for someone easy to marry so she could be taken care of, and find someone new to punish for her father killing her mother. When we guys are 18, we're pretty stupid, and we stupid things for sex. So she got you to marry her so she could continue to have sex with other men and have you take care of her.

Advice: Stop feeling bad for her. She uses her mother's death to make you feel guilty, and to control you. Since your wife refuses to get over her mother's death, and takes her anger out on you for it, and has been cheating on you for a long time, her mother's death means nothing now. Stop caring about her mother's death, and how hard your wife's life has been.

On divorce: I recommend finding an excellent divorce lawyer, tell them everything, and having them explain the divorce process to you. DO NOT TELL YOUR WIFE OR LET HER FIND OUT. Keep your anger to yourself. Follow your lawyer's directions and advice. He may just tell you to move out and not divorce her. He may also tell you to divorce her, but to also screencap things from her Facebook account. But talk to your lawyer, and do NOT let your wife see that you have an account here!

On cheating: She cheated on you long ago, well before she sent those pics to that guy on Facebook. She cheated because she is still angry at her father for killing her mother. You cheated because she wouldn't have sex with you. Don't feel bad about it, she did evil to you for your entire marriage.

I hope this all works out in your favor.