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Porn and significant others
#1
For those of you with significant others, what do they think about porn? Are they in to it, against it, sort of ambivalent? 

Ill start with my experience. My partner knows I watch a lot of porn and are generally ok with it, but I know it's not something they really seek out. But I remember I had a partner years ago, who basically thought that watching porn was as bad as cheating.



#2
My partner is fine with it, however there was an incident with a girl we knew and an onlyfans that she opened... Needless to say when you're whacking it to girls you will never see or meet it's fine, when it's a friend or someone you know, jealousy or personal insecurities come out, but if the shoe was on the other foot I would feel the exact same way so cant argue with her on that.



#3
Yeah I can see how that would be a sticky situation. I know my partner would definitely put the kibosh on anything involving someone we knew. How did you find out about your acquaintance having an onlyfans, if I may ask?



#4
Says she's okay with it, but in reality it triggers her insecurities



#5
Ideally, in a relationship, there will be no need for porn. Porn is supposed to hold us over until another relationship, but it fails at that aspect. If your partners don't like you watching it, maybe humor them and don't watch. That might give you guys some more sexual activity and intimacy.

But if your partner is sexually greedy (or otherwise), it would probably be better to be out of that relationship.



#6
Hey man, I really disagree.
Porn's not for everyone, but for those that enjoy it - there's no need for it to stop being enjoyed while you're in a relationship.
Not every two people in a relationship have a perfect sexuality overlap, and ones own self-sexuality is just as important as the one they share with their partner.  I would be cautious about seeing anyone who thinks of porn or masturbation as some sort of competition with them.

But obviously it can go too far, everything in moderation.  If porn's getting in the way of a relationship, that's when you need to look out.



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#7
I think your last line is key. If porn is in the way of a relationship then its a problem. I should be a subsdiary or ancilary thing, but an actual relationship (at least in my opinion) should take priority.



#8
It depends on the partner. Mine doesn’t care. As long as it isn’t directly affecting your relationship



#9
Agreed. No harm if it communication is honest.



#10
Fine with it most of the time.. depends on the day really.



#11
She's fine with me watching as long as I'm not chosing porn over her. I have a higher libido so this arrangement benefits both of us.



#12
Yeah Im In a similar boat with the different libidos



#13
Mine had a problem at first, but we talked it out. It depends on how your partner was brought up from what I've noticed.