[wakka]

I don't understand why a lot of girl are upset if they find that their partner watch porn. There is no other person involved and obviously no emotion. How could it be cheating?

[hexargentum]

It depends on the person, tbh. Just like how some people are more jealous than others. It could be a matter of insecurity.

Some people might tell you it's okay because, yes, there is no emotional attachment so it's okay. Others may see it as a threat because you are fapping to a body that isn't theirs, meaning that they think their body isn't enough to satisfy you, triggering negative emotions.

Communication can improve things, though. If you can help them with sufficient reassuring to the point where they don't doubt if you love them or not, then they might end up letting you do it. Also means you must be responsible in the relationship, boy. If you're watching porn to somehow find satisfaction you can't find in your irl love life, then the problem might not be theirs, it might be yours.

[pokemonsly7]

it depends, if a woman never  told you this at the start of the relationship then 
i dont think its cheating

[olichan12]

It depends on the partner you have.

Some want your sexual pleasure to solely come from them. This is good provided that you and your partner have that great of a sexual relationship.

Others "realize" that guys "need" porn for full sexual pleasure. Sometimes they'll put up with it, some will be ok with it, and some will outright encourage it.

Then there are those women that are so awful that porn/masturbation/cheating are the only sex life a husband will have. That's a horrible marriage there. One of my former friends had parents like that, where the mom went full prude, and the husband had no outlet. Then the wife was "shocked" when he cheated on her. Heh.

One of my friends is in a porn marriage. She was dumb and got with this guy who couldn't get it up or cum during sex unless he had porn to watch while fucking her. He is so addicted to porn that he'd rather jack off than touch his wife. His wife is really good looking, and she can stuck start a leaf blower. The guy has his own room next to his kids so he can fap when he's not at work. She has the master bedroom.

What it comes down to is what you and your partner decide. In a perfect world, we wouldn't need porn, because our sex lives would be that fucking awesome. But there is emotion involved, both with the guy watching porn, and the girl as well. It's something you gotta work out.

[_HGod_]

short answer no long answer defenitely not

[Game Ofthrones]

nope I don't think it is

[lurkmoar6900]

sensible and rational take from olichan12. +1

[Blackestprime]

Hell no its not cheating its just the partner dealing with the horny in them that most of the time the other partner isnt willing to do. Plus tbh watching porn keeps us from cheating.

[biggity]

Personally I've only ever dated women who were into porn themselves.  Makes life much easier, and the girls are usually much kinkier/better in bed, and also easier to turn on (and please in general) just by saying "hey lets watch this porn tonight".

As far as cheating goes, even if the above isn't the case ... it's not cheating.  Any woman, or person, who thinks so has some serious issues.  You're not involving yourself with another person in any way at all on a level where they even realize that you exist.  You're watching a person, or even hentai for that matter, who's job is to be masturbated to and nothing else.  This doesn't necessarily mean it's OK to just watch porn if you suspect your partner might not be happy with it, but it's not cheating.  Boundaries should still be set if it comes up (but let's be real, don't give unless it's absolutely necessary/worth it lmao)

If it was a one on one video chat or cybersex with another person over the internet, that's 100% different, and definitely cheating.

[BaseAppetites]

Remember, there's probably more girls out there who are raised more conservatively than guys. I'm talking about the "sex is bad, save yourself for marriage" type of upbringing. Even if they don't exactly believe in that, it's still a lesson drilled in since childhood, so there's going to be more rejection towards anything sex-related in general. So "cheating" is not "having sex with someone else", it's "sex-related stuff that's not with them". Then there's the emotional side of things - you're lusting after another woman, instead of them alone (blame romance novels for this part).

I'm talking about more extreme examples, but you can easily imagine girls with similar attitudes and less drastic reactions.

Still, you want to fap, she doesn't like that. Both sides need to talk it out and agree on something, or that relationship isn't going to turn out well.

[primog]

Communication is basic here, it may make the other person fell insecure about their bodies. Honestly, insecurities are shit, and should be taken with care. You could be hurting someone feelings if they don´t feel enough, if that makes sense.

[bgt357]

Depends on the people involved, never know if it isn't brought up

[FillMyCup]

Not really, but it's bad.

[doofusmcgee]

While there’s an argument to be made for how porn is corrupted people’s sex lives, in moderation it really just smooths out the rough parts of sex life compatibility without introduction of more partners. Also, sometimes it’s just a matter of wanting to stop being horny or that you don’t have the energy to please your partner. Porn is there to fill the gaps. I mean, yea, you can use imagination, but the reality of the situation is that porn is accessible, and it fills niches that even a great imagination struggles to. I think calling it cheating is daft except in cases where it starts ruining the other partners sex life, but still, calling it cheating is entirely a misnomer.
I love anal sex, my gal tolerates it on rare occasion, but really is squeamish if I so much as look at her asshole too much. She loves rape play with bondage, not really my deal since it ends up being incredibly involved on my end while she in effect does nothing. IMO it’s kinda hard to get off if I have to be an actor completely counter to my real self as well as dealing with knots and shit, even if the scenario is ‘man gets exactly what he wants’, the truth is not so much. Tried anal rape play and that stopped in pretty quick after the second plug. So, porn is there to help fill in the gaps for us and out fantasies. Not to mention, her sex drive literally runs circles around mine. On the rare weeks I keep up my dick feels bruised. So, why shouldn’t she watch something to help scratch the itch I don’t always want to? I certainly prefer this arrangement over the alternative of actually cheating.

[Handsome Jack]

yeah... maybe like, your partner should satisfy your sexual needs and if not then... maybe there should be a discussion on that....

[Bro is a assassin]

No cuz u ain't do anything but beating it to a screen

[10buzzingbat]

not it ain't watch it without any worry

[Azimuth42]

There are WAAAAAAAY better people who have researched this but I think there's some internalized misogyny involved tbh. People think that porn stars are sluts/disgusting so they see it as you valuing that over them.

Which is ridiculous, but you know how humans are.

[Playboy Carti]

I would definitely not consider it as "cheating" cause you're kinda having sex with yourself, looking at pixels. However it's understandable that she gets jealous or mad, because you're choosing that, instead of her. u feel me?

[Fortress]

wouldn't consider cheating because it's just you.