yes, generally men like to "see" something, because their goal is looking something to chase (for eat) and detecting threats.. our brain is evolved like this. (of course not every men !)
So men are more excited by visual, they capture a woman who is "beautiful" to give thier DNA. The notion of beautiful changed always, but it was related to big breast and big pelvis for give a bay easly and feed them too.
All kind of living animals' goal is spread thier DNA..
but women were different. If a man give a sperm and she have a baby, it's her responsibility for 10 month of pregnant and take care after as well. man can be free and just go a way..
So I think for woman, there is a kind of defending system, which can filter some situation that she is risked having a baby, so the "context" of sexual intercourse is more important than anything. (of course, some alcool or drug disable that defending system..)
That's why contextuel porn works better for women, I already heard of same porns for "female" in audio format, kind of a guy very sweet speaking gently in a imaginated situation who calm down and excite woman for that she can touch herself in this "context".
Mayby it depends also the culture of each contry, each familly, because after that we discovered how we can have sex but not making baby, everything is changed.